Recovering (addicts/alcoholics) have in my experience, a problem with trust. Firstly, trust in themselves, and then trust in society because they distrust themselves. I guide patients with an illustration of paying back a bank loan.
When the bank’s risk manager contacts you about your overdue installments on your car loan you know that this might be the last call from the bank. Should you not make this full payment, the bank would repossess your car.
When a person no longer uses any substance and is a non-drinker or non-smoker, there is always the trust issue. Trust that they can pull this through and trust that others will see this and they will regain the trust of others in them again.
How do you gain that self trust again? Here is the reality, should you not trust yourself, the loan will be revoked. You have to pay the installment called trust to the bank called life.
Should you fail to do so, at the bank called life there is no risk manager to contact you, you will be revoked. When you are revoked, the trust from those that we seek it will automatically be revoked again. This is the ripple effect that this action will have on you, without a doubt.
You will have to trust like a child, unconditionally. When you trust in this manner the rest will come naturally. This is preceded by self love, which you will have to do like a child as well. The no-trust syndrome will lead to you having a battle for a long time, and this is a waste of good time you could have spent being who you truly are. You will teach yourself a new culture, a culture that is not unfamiliar to you. You knew all this before in any event. You will teach yourself a new culture by means of new thought patterns, by changing your train of thought you will train your sub-conscience to automatically induce your new culture.
Should distrust continue in a recovery period, fear of how you will cope in your new state of sobriety, will continue to overrule your ability to take the next step. The next step being the new way you think of yourself. The subconscious mind does not distinguish between good and bad, right or wrong. It will take every thought you feed it and put it into action for it to manifest. The subconscious has only you to program it. Thus, the importance to keep feeding it the thoughts you want to manifest about the way you trust is imperative. Thoughts produce actions, so think about what you are thinking – think about that! There is great power there.
Recovery for any addict/ alcoholic is mainly the first step. Acknowledging yourself as being an abuser of a substance is 80% of the battle won. This is followed by a healing shift. I am specifically using the term shift as it takes place instantaneously, whereas a process is recognized as taking place over a long period of time, which can be described as evolution.
Should you want to start a drug and/ or alcohol free life, you cannot be burdened with a recovery process. If you are recovering, you will always be in the recovery process, and you will not be healed from whatever state of mind you are being. There is no substitute for healing – you heal and take the next step in your life.
The change will have to come from you. The only constant you have in life is the constant change of life. Why do the things you clearly know does not work for you, over and over again? The experience you got from this is always the same, so why do it in the same manner? See the possibility that it can be done differently, then do it. The experience you will get from doing life differently will be different.
Trust in your thoughts that produce your new actions, and the automatic trust from everyone and everywhere will occur. Do this without doubt, without ego.
The human being would like to develop, to make a difference and to know that there is a difference and to know that there is a real meaning to his/her existence. At the same time, because of the need to survive, there is continuous effort to make it in the world and as such to adapt, to be accepted and to conform.
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